Understanding our feelings

Most of the information for emotional wellbeing can be found under the wellbeing tab. The most important thing for children to understand is how to recognise, manage and react to their feelings. Now everyone at some point in their life will react through their emotions instead of processing them and that is okay. However, it is my belief that the younger we can teach pupils to understand their emotions the more we can help them in learning to manage their reactions. 

Why is this important? 

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Emotions can sometimes take control of us and they can become overwhelming especially when we don't know why we are feeling this way. For younger children especially it can be really confusing and they might react in a way that would not help them to understand. We can help children to recognise their emotions by asking them to identify how they feel. We can encourage them to use different strategies to manage this emotion and guide them in their reaction. 

Sometimes our emotions are trying to tell our body about something that we might not be totally aware of and that is why it is important to learn how to recognise what these emotions are. We also want to encourage people to talk about their emotions and not bottle them up. There is a lot of stigma around males not displaying or discussing emotions because it is seen as a  feminine trait, however, bottling things up can be incredibly harmful towards your emotional and mental wellbeing. This is another stigma that we want to break! 


What we can do to help?

There are different methods that people use to recognise and manage their emotions. The video will demonstrate an ABCDE method that you can encourage children to do to help them recognise their emotions and make sure they are ready to react in a positive way that won't leave them with regrets. The more we encourage children to recognise and manage their reactions we help them to build resilience. 

This video refers to anger managment, however, the same steps can be used for different emotions like sadness.



There are a lot of great ways to help children to learn about their emotions, they are not always going to react in a positive way, as adults we don't even do that all the time. However, helping them to recognise their emotions will help them to be more prepared to deal with them and react positively. Below are a few more resources that you can use to help your child understand and feel comfortable talking about their emotions.


Cbeebies have a lot of great child-friendly resources that help children talk and learn about their feelings. They have songs, videos, and crafts all linked to expressing our feelings. Click the button below to access some of these resources.


Films, TV shows, and books can create great teaching opportunities. Children can sometimes relate to the characters and it can help them to understand different emotions and how we deal with them, we can also learn about our reactions and how sometimes if we don't manage them they can have consequences. Inside out is a great film to explain why all of our emotions are important and why it is okay to get angry and feel sad. Click the link below and it will take you to the resources page where I have listed a few books which are available at the Orkney Library, most of these books help to teach us about emotional and mental wellbeing.


On the emotional wellbeing page the more difficult emotions were discussed. And how sometimes these last longer and the techniques and resources above won't always help. Many of these more difficult emotions are linked to our mental wellbeing. To help and support a child with these more difficult emotions you can follow very similar steps to the mental wellbeing page.

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What exactly does it mean to man up?

One of the biggest stigmas surrounding emotional wellbeing is related to males and how it is deemed unmanly to express your emotions. With this stigma, it suggests "Real men" don't cry or show their emotions they hide them or push them away. The language that we use is picked up on by those around us, we need to fight these stigmas and stand up to those who suggest that it isn't okay to express our feelings.   

No matter who you are, expressing your emotions is healthy, it's necessary and it's okay! 


If there is any more information that I can provide or any more resources that you would like to see, you can ask through the FAQ page or contact me directly at leylagunn@outlook.com. I will do my best to help in any way that I can.